How motherhood is deconstructing my hurriedness

I sometimes feel the bubbling of impatience as I mother. I observe myself and other parents wrestling with this desire to hurry up and get our little people to go where we want them to go. Children move at a slower rhythm and our prodding and pushing can disrupt their natural flow.

When I feel into the natural pace of children and then adults, there is a huge disparity between the two. This can cause a lack of harmony which usually results in unnecessary struggle. I don’t believe we need to force or coerce our children to do daily tasks. I see it as a partnership. I often ask myself how I would want to be treated.

For example: let’s say I am fully engaged in something I love like writing, reading or exercising. I am in my flow and someone comes up and jumps into my bliss and says: Hurry up. Let’s go. We are leaving right now to go do (fill in the blank). It would feel jarring and disorienting. Why would this be any different for our children? Yet, we expect them to just go with our pace and tempo.

One of the best pieces of parenting wisdom I’ve received was from the late Magda Gerber; her recommendation was one simple word: Wait! Silently repeating it to ourselves if needed. Wait…Wait… Wait... When we make a request…pause, wait, and give our children space to process. When we feel the urge to push our children to do something like put their pajamas on,  change their diaper or brush their teeth. Remember to wait.

Create more space in your mind and your life so you can give the gift of spaciousness. A natural flow will emerge, even if it feels counterintuitive. There can be a concern that by giving them more space they’ll never actually do what we are asking, but that hasn’t been my experience. Usually, I am astonished at how just a few minutes of patience can create so much more peace.

This may sound easy but it’s a monumental task to feel the rise of frustration and choose to wait and breathe. This doesn’t mean we are permissive with our parenting and let them do whatever they want whenever they want to do it. It just means giving more time and presence in order for them to move from their center.

Our role as parents is to create a safe haven for our children to thrive and also hold strong boundaries so they learn how to be a collaborator within the family. Treating them with respect and love and trusting that just because they are smaller and their brains aren’t fully formed that they understand, because they do. Their knowing may not always be an intellectual understanding. Most of the time (especially when they are young) this knowing is an energetic transmission.

The mother sets the tone, rhythm and culture for the family. We must be centered and attuned so we can create a flow that works for everyone. Sometimes this means there are time constraints we must honor in order to create harmony within the whole. This may upset our children’s desire for play and exploration which may include upset and tears.

This doesn’t mean something’s wrong. It just means we need to hold more loving space for them as they integrate the emotions that are arising. We all have these emotions and children just express them more fully and outwardly than we do. If we can hold space and allow their emotions to flow like a river they will move right through them.

It’s a constant dance. It’s vital for us, as mothers, to honor our desires and also our children’s. When these desires conflict (as they often can), I usually get down on my knees or pick my son up so we can connect eye to eye. Then, I say: I see that you want this and I want this. Let’s make a deal.

We talk about creative ways we can both get our needs met. Some days this goes smoother than others and sometimes we need to re-negotiate deals again and again. The simple practice of slowing down enough to listen, connect and be in relationship with my child makes such a big difference.

The reality is that children go slower than adults. They explore, they’re curious and ask questions, they see and experience the world with completely different eyes. If we are going to authentically connect we must tune into their level of absorption and focus…their enthusiasm for the ordinary. This isn’t easy for most of us.

Our culturally conditioned adult minds tend to move faster. Much faster and disembodied. Life is a full embodied experience for children — mind, body and spirit. So-called grown ups can tend to be distracted with future thinking about what’s next, where we need to go, what needs to get done.

I continually play with the rise of hurriedness I feel sometimes. This urge to hurry up. When I notice myself projecting into the future while I am at the park with my son or thinking about the dinner I still need to make, or wanting to be doing something more interesting, etc. I stop the mental chatter and ask myself to come back to the present.

I inquire into how can I sink more into this moment so that I can find the joy right where I stand. I ask: How can I be fully engaged with my child? Learn from him? He knows presence way better than I do. In many ways in the pursuit of adulthood I’ve unlearned the simple joys of living. Being with him helps me settle back into my natural soul pace.

The art of motherhood fascinates me. It’s a completely different pace and reality than most of the world. I wonder if this is why it can feel so challenging to be a modern mom? The email, the iPhones, the technology moves at the pace of electricity. Children don’t.

Our relationships don’t move in this way. They need space to explore and to feel and to rest in order to flourish. There is a rush we feel when we work, or are engaged with adults because most of the time the vibe is higher and faster. It feels more in sync with our racing minds. If we want to experience joyful parenting we can’t try to operate our home in the same way we would if were leading a meeting, managing a business, or trying to get 100 things done in a day.

There are days I wish for more excitement in my daily life. More burst of electricity and less of the mundane. Then, I step back and see. I see that motherhood is calling me deeper into myself and deeper into life. Which is what my soul wants more than anything. I want to live deeper. I want to feel more. I want to experience more. I want to feel the pulse of life running through my veins. This takes patience and practice. It’s not glamorous and it can be challenging. But, what could more powerful than returning to my natural essence?

Motherhood is changing me in ways I could’ve never imagined. I am grateful because it’s calling me home in a way I’ve been desiring for a long time. I just didn’t think it would look like this. I thought it would be more graceful and more easeful with more sparkles and joy. Not there aren’t a lot of those moments…because there are. But it’s…well, a whole lot harder than I envisioned.

I imagine it’s easier for some. But, for me it’s been a deconstruction phase where I’ve challenged my beliefs about time, love, joy and success. I continually choose to create the sacred in the ordinary again and again and again.

This has opened up space for a whole new re-invention of self that I wasn’t even aware existed. I could have missed this call for transformation but I’ve done my best to stay present to what’s real and true for me. Even during those times I wish things felt easier I hear the emergence of my true self whispering to keep on…there’s more unfolding you just can’t see it right now.

It’s all a work in progress. I am no zen priestess but I am slowly learning there is no need to hurry. I can sit for a bit longer. I can rest in the moment a bit longer. I can enjoy the sun on my face and feel the joy in my heart as I watch my son completely and fully be himself.

Why would I want to hurry this? My desire and practice is to be passionately present and engaged and connected. My son is my teacher on this one. His natural pace and essence is guiding me to a place I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t have experienced if I wasn’t his mother.

The hardest part of stepping into motherhood was the feeling that I lost some of my spark, my creativity, my freedom. Now, I smile (most days) because I know that’s not true. I am finding an even more authentic voice and spark and an internal freedom. Transformation takes time, persistence, diligence and a willingness to see the light even as we navigate the unknown. And, motherhood is the definition of flux.

May I be present to the magic that is always unfolding. May I trust in the flow of life. May I rest in the joy that is always available. May I be engaged and present. May I be willing to slow down and go at a completely difference pace than the collective. May I move from a place of rest, ease and grace. May I continue to honor the sacred duty of being a mother.

Here’s a little free flow blissitation to support you in resting today:


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The Rechargeables: Eat Move Sleep

We read the Rechargeables book indexat least once a day. It’s one of little E’s favorites. I love it because it reminds us how simple and important staying recharged is to living an optimized life.

If we, as a family, are eating right, moving and sleeping well we are setting ourselves up for a pretty awesome day!

Eat, Move & Sleep are vital for our family flow. We have such great routines that it’s easy to notice the impact on the whole when someone is off in one of these 3 areas. Life is so much smoother (and more fun) when our days are shaped around these basic principles.

Are we eating nutrient dense foods? Moving a lot? Getting outside? Resting and sleeping well? If the answers are YES we’re rockin’ it! I also like to add in some FullSizeRender-6gratitude, a positive mindset, play and laughter and we’re unstoppable! 🙂

Today in celebration of the eating well principle we made some juice. E’s at the age now where he can do it by himself (w/my supervision of course) which is pretty exciting. He *loves* to do it. Today we juiced outside because Daddy needed us to be quiet so he could record. Toddlers and quiet don’t usually go together.:)

<– Here FullSizeRender-7we are drinking our juice and getting recharged.

Ok…back to the Rechargeables book. The main characters – Poppy and Simon go on a bunch of adventures to figure out how to keep their charge up and stay in the green zone. By the end they realize it’s essential to eat right, move more, and sleep well for energy. Then, they decide to go and help everyone in the village get recharged.

Sidenote: In a lot of our books I change words and even some story lines. I actually really dig most of this one but still do add a few additions here and there.:)

Here’s a fun little recording we did about how to stay recharged while we were making juice:

(At the end Zeus, our dog got scared of the wind blowing so E was checking in to make sure he was ok.;)

We talk about Simon and Poppy a lot. They even accompany us on our walks, playing and making food in the kitchen. It’s such a brilliant way to help children understand how they can impact their health and energy (and a great reminder for us parents too). FullSizeRender-8

Emerson will say things like: I am getting my charge up when he eats or he’ll ask if something is brain food. Or, he’ll run and say: I am getting recharged. At bedtime we talk about how sleep helps us stay well resourced and recharged so we can have another great day tomorrow! 🙂

What are your favorite children’s books and ways to recharge with your family?

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10 Adventure Quests with a Toddler

One way to get the most out of life is to look upon it as an adventure. — William Feather

Yesterday I awoke with a few limiting thoughts and a lack of excitement about the day with my toddler. I decided to do something different. I asked the question: How can I make today an adventure!? How could we make it more fun!?FullSizeRender_3

I thought: Make it a game. We will go on 10 quests today. I shared the idea with my son and then, we sat down and wrote out our list. He contributed the park, store and making the pumpkin porridge, the rest were my ideas that he agreed with.

We started our game at 10:30 am and ended at 5:30 pm. Below is what we did in the order we did them. 🙂

1. 7 minute Whole Body Vibration Plate workoutWe  have our own little home gym so he did his own little “workout” which consisted of not wanting me to workout, playing with legos and doing a little bit of rowing. 😉 (If you’re interested in the vibration plate there is also a less expensive one on Amazon you can find HERE!)

Image-1-12. Grocery Store — Here we got a green juice and kale chips to power us up for the start of our outdoor quests. We also stopped by a sign that I’ve walked by many times but have never read. It was pretty awesome to see people’s desires. Made me smile.

3. Find a feather — We went to the metaphysical store down the street from our house and serendipitously saw a Image-1-2bunch of feathers. #Score! I also got some more frankenscience incense and a little memento to put on my desk. Oh, and I bought a magazine which is something I pretty much never do. I know really daring greatly. HA! FullSizeRenderI thought the cover was brilliant!! 🙂

4.Discover something new — We stopped to ask two construction workers what they were fixing. We learned all about how the water actually gets into our homes so we can use it. Amazing how many people help our lives run smoother. WFullSizeRender_4e also discovered this cool free library someone created on the street outside their house and made a note to go and donate a book.

5. Walk down a different street — While we were walking down our quest street we met a local author, Robyn. If I wasn’t in the adventurous spirit I probably wouldn’t have said anything. But, we were on a quest so I said: I think I have a book you wrote. Did you write a book? She said: Yes! We talked about her book/work/parenting/etc. Then, I shared how much I appreciated her commitment to unabashedly be herself. We had a delightful conversation and hugged as we both went on our way. (Her book is Go Only As Fast As Your Slowest Part Feels Safe To Go).

6. Go to the park and do 10 different activities We visit the park at least once a day. I sometimes play but mostly just hang around and watch my son play. I wanted to get in on the action so I committed to doing 10 different activities. I went down slides, climbed walls, attempted pull ups, jumped, etc. It was so much more fun. Good reminder we can inspire play wherever we go. Don’t let the joy stoppers limit our fun!

7. Have a picnic  — I was thinking we would rock this quest in the afternoon but FullSizeRender_2it ended up raining. Later I told E we still needed to do our picnic quest. He said we already did it when we sat on the floor eating our pumpkin porridge. Indoor picnic on the floor? Works for me! 🙂

Then, it was about 4:45 and it was chilly and slightly raining and I really wanted to just stay inside. But, we still had a few more quests to complete. E said: Let’s Go! So, we put our jackets and hats on and headed out. It was actually amazing.  No one was out and it was beautiful from the recent rainfall with lots of puddles to jump in.

8. Help someone — I am reaching with this one because it was more just being helpful rather than helping a specific person. But, we are counting it. We found 8 pieces of trash and picked it up and put it in the garbage. The best part was how excited he got when he found a piece of trash and then preceded to put it in the garbage. Never would have guessed picking up trash could be so fun!

9. Climb a tree — My son is only 3 so we don’t climb that high. But, we did climb up a smaller one and explored 2 really big tree trunks. While we were sitting on one of the trucks he decided he wanted to have a pretend picnic. Great idea I said (kids are awesome!). He then went and got some leaves and some sticks and we pretended to 1079_25_gratitude-quotes-gratitude-quoteswebhave some apples, porridge, cashew butter and green juice.

10. Savor and gratitude practice —  We savored all the fun things we did before his nap. And, then, before bedtime we talked about all the adventures of the day and what we loved about it and a couple of things we were grateful for.

Bonus Quests:
* Make pumpkin porridgeE got the canned pumpkin out of the cabinet and wanted to make something with it. I haven’t eaten grains in 3 years and occasionally I miss porridge/oatmeal. So, I had the inspiration to try to create something similar. We both FullSizeRender_1*loved* the experimental creation and are going to make it again today. Will share recipe soon!

* Sprints — When we were outside completing our adventure quests I said: Let’s get some sprints in too. Wanna run? He enthusiastically said: YES! And, off we went running down the bike path, stopping to rest and take a few breaths and then starting again. So great.

Whew! What an awesome adventure! It would have been a totally different day if I would’ve believed my grumpy thoughts from the morning. I might’ve even felt kinda bored with the whole at-home-mothering thing but we turned it into a wild adventure. Happy I chose something different.

We both got lots of nature time, talked with a bunch of people, had a lot of fun, discovered new things, moved our bodies a lot, and nourished ourselves with some good food, gratitude and the joy of helping ourselves and others! I was a much happier Momma today because of it! 🙂

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P.S. Any other ideas for our next Adventure Quest day? What would be your quests for the day? 🙂

Don’t rush the moments

What do we want? When we get still enough what are our true heart desires?

My son and husband are asleep, it’s 8:40 pm. Tears are streaming down my face as I sit in the silence meditating/contemplating and feeling into my life before I go to bed. I believe we all want to feel alive, like really alive Joseph Campbell style:

People say that what we’re all seeking is a meaning for life. I don’t think that’s what we’re really seeking. I think that what we’re seeking is an experience of being alive, so that our life experiences on the purely physical plane will have resonances with our innermost being and reality, so that we actually feel the rapture of being alive.

When I can touch the tenderness of this desire the tears steam so easily. This joyful aliveness is in the moments, in our connections, in the small acts of kindness. If we can slow down enough we can feel our innermost being vibrating with aliveness.

I sometimes notice as a culture we are looking for the big. If this BIG thing happens then everything will be OK. I will be OK. So…we strive and we look forward. We quickly move from one thing to the next so that we can hurry up and get there.

What if by all of this rushing to the “next thing” we missed some of the most loving moments? What if the biggest wins were the times we found the gold shimmering in the slivers of time as we pursued our goals? What if we really did enjoy the journey instead of rushed? This sounds cliche and easy but as a real life practice it can challenging.

I wonder why…it seems like it would be easy right? Savor, soften, open, love and enjoy! Easy enough. Yet, I notice the holding back, the protecting, the restriction of my natural flow. Sometimes I wonder if it’s easier for others? But, then think: I’m pretty sure this is something we all work with. If you don’t please share your sage wisdom!:)

I relish the moments like tonight where I intentionally slow down, pause and feel my heart in such a big and powerful way. It’s like a veil lifts and I want to forever open up my heart big and wide. Knowing this is where the magic resides.

I think it’s important to do things we are proud of, and cross the finish line and feel accomplished. This helps increase our sense of aliveness, but there is more. What about resting for awhile where we are — playing, meandering, looking for the simple beauty, relishing in the appreciation of all that is good now. What’s the rush?

My life isn’t perfect. I am not floating on some cloud with complete peace and joy. But, it’s mine. All mine to create as I choose. The sacredness of our unique lives is astonishing and yet so ordinary. I felt this tonight as I was enjoying some time with my son before he went to sleep. Something pretty much all Moms do…we support our children in getting to bed. But, I was touched by the holy honor it is to be a mother.

After we read our 4 books he said: “Cuddle Mommy.” I cuddled in and he snuggled up next to me holding his green “blankie”; which is one of my dresses that he turned into a blanket because it “smells like Mommy.”

As we lay there in the amber glow from the nightlight he is shining like the angel he is. I softly stroke his hair and face doing my best to enjoy this moment. I feel the pull to go and get ready for bed and I breathe. I don’t want to rush this moment. Not tonight.

I listen to him breathing. I’m acutely aware that one day he will no longer want his blankie or me to cuddle him to sleep. I soften. These are the moments where the divine lives. This is heaven on earth. I watch him slowly close his eyes. I stay awhile longer reveling in his perfection and then, gently get up and walk out the door with a heart full of love.

Tonight as the tears drop down on my journal I write: Open sweet one. Open. It’s really ok to feel this much! I pray to stay open to the wonder of now. Help me see the world through my heart. May I stand in all that is real, true and beautiful in my life. Help me stay connected even when I want to close. Help me love and play even more. Allow my tenderness to heal my soul.  May I feel the presence of grace everywhere, even if I don’t want to and sometimes feel scared. Let me surrender to the LOVE! I breathe in the joy and gratitude for this day. Thank you!

I know there is no getting to a perfect state of grace all the time. I know there will be days and moments the urge to rush will win. And, yet, I hold the intention to continue to remember. Remember to pause and not hurry the moments. This simple practice guides me to more fulfillment. I celebrate these moments like tonight where my heart feels like it grew. I also know I will get triggered and close. Then, I will open. Then, close. And play somewhere in between…thus, is the dance of life.
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Bliss Diary – October 15, 2015

Just keep coming home to yourself. You are the one you’ve been waiting for. — Byron Katie

Affirmation: I trust my life! ❤

Mind/Heart Goodness: I woke up and meditated with the intention that all is well. I am on the right path. And, as I was going throughout my day I noticed the inner gremlins had a bunch of “opinions”.

I did some turnarounds on some of the the thoughts that were making me feel a bit grouchy to:

  • My life as a stay at home Momma is awesome. I love the joy and the simplicity and the ease that flows with regular routines. There is so much joy available if I am willing to look for it.
  • It’s all good I can’t drive (when you have seizures or even faint and take an ambulance ride they turn it into the DMV and you can’t drive for a period of time). It just means I get to simplify more and find new things to explore within in walking distance.
  • What I am going through right now in regards to my health is only guiding me to wholeness. I wouldn’t be growing in the way that I am right now if I didn’t have 2 seizures. It’s a blessing in disguise. I can see at least 5 ways this is true – #1 being we met with Daniel Amen on Tuesday! Hello, talk about AWESOME!
  • I am grateful that our kitchen is being remediated and we will soon have our dishwasher back. I am thankful I was so proactive and thrilled to have the mold out of our home!
  • I am blessed to have the opportunity, resources and knowledge to prepare our family’s meals with the most nutrient rich ingredients. It’s actually really fun if I let myself enjoy it! 🙂

This is the practice. Can we do it on the days we don’t don’t feel like or life doesn’t go the way we think it should? Life is as it should be! Now. Today. Always. I reminded myself this again and again throughout the day. 😉

What I learned from my toddler: I looked at the dishes in the sink. I sometimes resist doing them. We’ve been doing dishes by hand for the last month while getting the mold out and re-building. Thankfully, we have 2 sinks so we can still cook and clean. But, ok, back to the dishes…

I committed to getting them done and asked my 3 year old son if he wanted to help. He enthusiastically said: YES! Get what Dampa made (it’s a learning tower my step dad made for him). He was JAZZED to do the dishes! (Ha so great!) He jumped up and grabbed the sponge and started washing away. Then, he filled a big bowl of water and proceeded to dump it all over the counter and floor. sophocles-quotes-24562

I had to laugh as there was water everywhere while also reminding myself it’s all good.  I’ve been practicing being warm neutral, observing and stating what I notice for the last 3 years (Thanks to RIE). It’s been instrumental as I navigate this whole parenting process.

So, I calmly said: I noticed you filled the bowl and dumped it on the counter and floor. Is there a reason you did that?
He said: I just did it!
Then, I said: Ok, you can dump bowls of water in the sink but I don’t want it on the counter or the floor. Please keep all the water in the sink.
He said: OK and kept washing. No big Deal (NBD as we say in our house). We finished the dishes and he was actually really helpful and made it so much more fun! 🙂

I thought to myself. Life’s actually easier if we don’t bring the drama. I could have made it a bigger deal. But, the beauty of children is they explore, that’s what they are wired to do. If we get upset as they experiment with life it just shows we have some work to do, not them.

And, at the end of the day…What is my intention? My intention is to trust, experience joy and have a beautiful relationship with my child. TRUST! FLOW! JOY! SURRENDER!

Transformation is available every day no matter what we are doing! It’s always there waiting for us to step into our power if we are willing. It doesn’t have to be a big thing. It can be as simple as washing the dishes with a toddler. And, the best part is we can either make it a game and enjoy the process or suffer. It’s not always easy but so worth the effort to choose fun and ease! 🙂

Nutrition:
* bulletproof coffee with 1/2 TB mct oil + 1 tsp ghee + 3 TB coconut cream + collagen +  stevia
* 16 oz green juice (celery, cucumber, parsley, ginger and a splash of apple)
* lulu’s maca chocolate buttercups with some plantain chips
* chocolate delish muffins + ginger kombucha
* 4 oz green juice + cauliflower rice w/bone broth + little bit of steak + olives + pasta sauce

— Wondering about my love affair with chocolate.;) And, also changing to decaf coffee and only going to have it on occasion. It’s been a good month experiment but I don’t want to have it everyday. Especially, since I won’t be drinking it while pregnant. No, I’m not pregnant but getting prepared. 😉

Meditation: 15 minutes

Movement: 35 minute walk/jog/stride on the bike path pushing the stroller + a 15 minute walk later in the day.

Rest: Bed at 9:30 last night and woke up at 5:30 am & a took a 30 minute napitation while my son napped.

Gratitude & Appreciation:  I am super grateful for Dr. Daniel Amen and his decades of research and pioneering. We had an amazing visit with him earlier this week! WOW! I am still integrating it all and really excited to increase my brain power even more. I am grateful for my beautiful computer. I am grateful for clean drinking water. I am thankful my cousin had a glorious birth and welcomed her first child into the world. New life…it’s a beautiful thing. I am grateful for all of my coaches and mentors over the years. It’s amazing how much I’ve learned and changed.

Thank you to the ordinarily extraordinary day that allowed me to continue to blossom where I stand and to my toddler who continuously shows me how to fully live out loud in such a real and authentic way!  May I continue to see all the blessings I have in my life. #thankyou

Ok, my son is loudly expressing he’s ready to go! Sending love!

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Zen Habits & The Art of Parenting – Interview with Leo Babauta

A good parent is someone who is happy.

This is an interview I did with Leo Babauta. He is the creator of Zen Habits, a Top 25 blog (according to TIME magazine) with 260,000 subscribers, and the best-selling books Focus, The Power of Less, and Zen To Done. He is a former journalist of 18 years, a husband, father of six children, and in 2010 moved from Guam to San Francisco, where he leads a simple life.

I’ve been a fan of Leo’s for years. I appreciate his commitment, simplicity, humility and energy! In this interview we explore simplicity parenting, what it was like for him to become a new parent, unschooling and a bunch of other parenting goodness. 🙂

Hope you enjoy!

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Momma Zen – Interview with Karen Maezen Miller

Karen Maezen Miller is a wife and mother as well as a Zen Buddhist priest at the Hazy Moon Zen Center Los Angeles, California.

She writes about spirituality in everyday life and is the author of Paradise in Plain Sight: Lessons from a Zen Garden, Hand Wash Cold: Care Instructions for an Ordinary Life and Momma Zen: Walking the Crooked Path of Motherhood.

This interview is sooooo good!! I listened to this 3 1/2 years after I interviewed her and it was exactly what I needed to hear today. This conversation never tires because how we experience motherhood is how we live. Powerful medicine and awesome wisdom for Mommas!!

I *love* her Momma Zen book! Here are a few of my favorite passages:

Your life is your practice. Your spiritual practice does not occur someplace other than in your life right now, and your life is nowhere other than where you are. You are looking for answers, insight, and wisdom that you already possess. Live the life in front of you, be the life you are, and see what you find out for yourself.

We can handle anything when we exchange our worries and fears for alertness and spontaneity, when we focus solely on what is in front of us, and when we leap into the sheer wonder of the unplanned life.

Practice acceptance on yourself so you can be kinder with your child.”

Life is full of fits and starts. Some things are easy; some are not. Some things go and some things stop. Do your work; then set it down. There are no failures. Forgive and forget yourself.”

You can change in an instant. You can change your mind. You can change your timing. You can change your approach. You can change your words. You can laugh instead of scream. You can hop on one foot. You can step away from the fray instead of stepping in. You can give up, give in, and go in a completely different direction you’d like to. You can do the dishes later. What then? What next? The Zen master has told you, ” You embody the golden breeze.” You are change. You have infitnite power to relax, to release, to change, and thus to change everything. If you find that you don’t have the energy or the good humor to do so this time, I will understand. There will be many opportunities afforded you.”

Your child is a tireless teacher, constantly probing your self imposed limits and boundaries, your self-centeredness, your sheer stubbornness.”

Yes, we all have a load on our hands, but the heavy is in our heads. Set the heavy down and sweep aside the useless mental clutter…When you can do anything as though you work at nothing, you have the best days of your life.

Words are magic. All words are, not just please and thank you. The words my daughter will use are the ones she hears; the words I want her to use she must hear from me.

All the careful preparations and good intentions you bring to motherhood come down to this: can you handle it right now?”

Here comes again: another start start of another day. What a reprieve! You have incalculable chances to change the ending. To change your attitude. To be the new you. Whether you know it or not, you already are the new you. Forget what you think, lose the foregone conclusion, and just be new.

In my home, the life of a priest, a wife, and a mother are one and the same. I have only one life and my life is only one thing. Motherhood doesn’t get in the way of being a priest, and being a priest doesn’t get in the way of being a mother. My practice is to see that nothing ever gets in the way of anything else. More to the point, my practice is to recognize that no one else is ever pushing me forward, and no one else is ever holding me back.

Aaaamazing right!? LOVE! I hope you enjoyed the interview and her golden wisdom!

Lots of Momma Love,

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