Bliss Diary – July 14, 2015

The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart. — Helen Keller

Intention/Affirmation: Do the little things. Don’t procrastinate. Do it now, with a smile of gratitude.

Nutrition:
7:00 longevity tea w/ coconut milk, mct oil, collagen, peppermint oil, cacao butter, stevia
9:30 3 sweet potato/egg muffins w/turmeric coconut butter
1:00 green goddess salad
3:15 16+ green juice + kevita
5:30 kelp noodles w/ basil pasta sauce, kale, collards, and ground beef

Movement:
* 40 minute “creative” track workout – meaning I went with E + our dog so it made for a lot of variety
* 15+ minute walk to park
* 15+ minute walk back home from park

Meditation: 15 minutes + 20 minute guided meditation

Cleaning Habit: The habit I am building this week is to keep the kitchen clean throughout the day. So when we sat down for dinner the only thing left to clean will be the dinner dishes. I want to wake up with a clean kitchen every day.

I succeeded today. I also experienced more flow and ease cooking dinner with a clean kitchen. Brian told me that it’s been scientific proven that clean spaces increases willpower. More of that please. πŸ™‚

Book Love: I finished The Danish Way of Parenting: A Guide To Raising The Happiest Kids in the World. It’s written by an American writer and cultural trainer and a Licensed Narrative Therapist. I loved it, it felt very RIE. It goes through the acronym P.A.R.E.N.T. which stands for play, authenticity, reframing, empathy, no ultimatums, togetherness. We all want to do the best for our children/family and this book has a lot of really awesome and important information for parents.

Denmark has been voted as having the happiest people in the world by the OECD (Organisation for Economic Co-operation and Development) for almost every single year consecutive year since 1973…

America, on the other hand, the country with “the pursuit of happiness” built into its very own Declaration of Independence isn’t even in the top 10. It’s barely in the top 20, closer to number 17 after Mexico. Despite having an entire field of psychology devoted to happiness and an endless sea of self-help books instructing us on how to acquire this elusive emotion, we aren’t really that happy. Why is that? And, moreover, why are the Danes so content?

The Danes are happier because they do things differently than a lot of the traditional parenting advice out there. Conscious parenting can be challenging because we are creating new neural pathways by choosing to do something other than the way we were raised.Β  “Most people just repeat their own patterns. You are doing something much bigger and harder by making a change.” It takes intention, wisdom, commitment and love to raise happy, healthy and resilient children.

Sometimes we forget that parenting, like love, is a verb. It takes effort and work to yield positive returns. There is an incredible amount of self-awareness involved in being a good parent. It requires us to look at what we do when we are tired and stressed and stretched to our limits. These actions are called our default settings. Our default settings are the actions and reactions we have when we are too tired to choose a better way.

Choosing a better way is an investment. How we show up daily impacts our experience with our children. It isn’t going to be all sunshine and rainbows, but there can be soooo much more ease, grace and joy when we focus on play, authenticity, reframing, empathy, no ultimatums, togetherness. So, instead of the terrible two’s it’s the terrific twos and the so-called “three is more terrible than twos” turns into the “three is more amazing than twos.”:)

Body Goodness: Today starts the completion phase of my menstrual cycle which is perfectly timed with my intentions to clean, organize and declutter. I’m having fun syncing my life with my cycle. I’m not sure how this works when you’re pregnant but for now I’m diggin’ it.

I am noticing a difference in my energy. I’ve been working with my adrenals and sub-clinical hypothyroidism with my TSH being at 2.7 (6 months ago). I just did another test 2 weeks ago so I’m looking forward to seeing what my numbers are now. My hunch is my thyroid hasn’t been optimal for awhile and after pregnancy, birth and extended breastfeeding it can get even more out of balance.

I’ve been working with Alan Christianson on this, he’s a Naturopath. He likes the TSH to be around .9 – 2.0, which is pretty standard for functional medicine. Conventional medicine doesn’t do much unless your over 10. I just started taking bio-identical hormones to decrease my TSH number. I am taking these temporarily and will taper off them once my numbers get back into balance. I don’t think I would’ve been open to this if I didn’t read in The Better Baby Book that Lana Asprey took bio-identical hormones after the birth of their first child. I respect Dave Asprey’s research, knowledge and passion. And, from what I’ve researched thyroid health is vital for having another healthy and awesome pregnancy in the future.

Proud Parent Moments: As I’ve said in my other post, I am doing more of “let him learn on his own time” potty learning. E has been really into wearing his “underwear,” he can put them on all by himself (yes, it’s the little things). He said he needed to go poop and asked B to go with him to the toilet. He did and then called me so I could see it. He did this 2 more times today. You know you’re a parent when you genuinely get excited about your child going to the bathroom (haha). So awesome!!

Mind/Heart/Spirit Goodness: I’ve felt such gratitude for my little companion. It gets easier and easier and more and more fun. He is learning so much and becoming so autonomous. I was thinking about our plan for schooling, which is…we don’t plan to put him in school. I researched about school years before I was even pregnant. I knew that I wanted to do a more natural homeschooling/unschooling learning style for our children. We like to call it optimal learning. πŸ™‚

Since becoming a mother my naive bubble around time has been busted. I’ve wondered how the heck I am going to do it, especially adding another child to our family. I attended public school so this is something totally new to and I am learning as I go. But, today I saw it and felt glimpses of how we can make it work and have it be fun.

Gratitude & Appreciation: I am grateful for the two walks. I am grateful for the local track. I really enjoy going there. I am grateful my son went in the potty 3 times today. Woohooo! I am grateful my husband helped keep the kitchen clean today. Go Team Johnson! I am grateful for books! πŸ™‚ #thankyou

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2 thoughts on “Bliss Diary – July 14, 2015

  1. Hi Alexandra. Happy Danish book looks like a great one. Excited to read that one. Thanks for link! I was looking for a Danish parenting book a while back and couldn’t find one, so really excited. Wish I would have known about RIE when mine were babies. Big hugs:)

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  2. Great! I think you’ll really like it.:) RIE has been so amazing. I feel so blessed to have found out about it early in my parenting journey. It basically goes from birth to 3 but really it can support parents and children of all ages. Big Hugs back! πŸ™‚

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